Prior to having kids I had been adamant and vocal about the need for mothers to take care of their babies themselves. It was my intention and it is an ideal thing to do. Reality bites though, I have to work, as the case with many moms and dads out there.
Our kids grew up with nannies. They spent most hours of the day five days a week with a nanny. Our first child had a Filipino nanny. She was loving and motherly. She took care of the kids very well. Yes, she had three toddlers under her care. Our second child on the other hand had a Thai nanny. She had two babies to take care of. She was a grandmother and also motherly. I say we got to experience the best and the worse of both worlds. Both are similar in some ways yet so different in many ways. I will talk about this in length in my next post.
Anyway, would we have it in any other way? Well, I don’t think so. We did not have much choice. As both of us have to work full time (for the visa) , so looking after our then toddlers was simply out of the question. I think many expat parents share my view on this. In as much as we want to be there especially during this stage, we can’t, and all we can do is choose the best option there is.
For Thai expats there are several options to choose from.
- One is to ask a relative especially your mom and/or dad to look after your kid (for other culture this might be preposterous but for Asians this is acceptable and practical). They could apply for Non-O visa to be able to stay. Siblings however are not eligible. This is the kind of set up particularly preferred by those whose parents are retirees or are just not working.
- Second is sending your child to a day care that accepts infants and very young toddlers.
- Third is hiring a nanny.
If you would like to know more about our experience regarding this please click here.
For expats out there, which of the following choices above would you prefer?
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